Here is Gary Thomas giving talk about “Sacred Marriage.” It is one of the books that really changed my view of the purpose of marriage, and challenged me to pursue holiness, love, and respect with my wife. In his book, Sacred Marriage, he challenges us, “What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?” So, what do you think? If you are married, what was the reason for you getting married–to make you holy or happy? If you are thinking about getting married, are you seeking to be holy or happy? Here are some key thoughts that challenged me from the book:

“What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?” (Gary Thomas)

“While holiness as a goal of marriage may sound like a radically different view of marriage, the very concept of ‘romantic love,’ which is celebrated in movies, songs, and novels, was virtually unknown to the ancients.” (Gary Thomas)

“We often reflect on the fatherhood of God, which is a foundational Christian doctrine. But if we want to change our marriages, let’s spend some time thinking about God as Father-in-Law–because when you marry a believer, that’s what he becomes.” (Gary Thomas)

“If there is one thing young engaged couples need to hear, it’s that a good marriage is not something you find; it is something you work for. It takes struggle. You must crucify your selfishness. You must at times confront and at other times confess. The practice of forgiveness is essential.” (Gary Thomas)